Guilt - We often carry this around like a backpack of shame and it can weigh us down.
We are often not even aware of it and how it affects our lives.
Guilt can often cause fear.
Fear of having a problem ~ fear of not being enough ~ Fear of responsibilities ~ Fear of being found out ~ Fear of being unworthy.
As little children, we might absorb situations as our fault but because we are still developing our little minds and hearts we couldn't process them and so we carry them with us throughout life and it sticks and it blocks our way forward.
As humans, it is unavoidable to escape our own wrongdoings along the way, which is normal but we need to learn to process guilt in order to reduce fear.
How does guilt produce fear?
Well, we develop fear under the persuasion of any repressed emotion.
We soon feel disconnected from ourselves and others around us.
If you carry guilt around their will inevitably be a feeling of unworthiness.
It snubs out creativity and passion.
It blocks productivity and freedom to feel purposeful in relationships and experiments
Guilt is there as a system to alert us to moral/correct behaviour teaching us not to repeat it.
It's a moral guideline, but we must learn, grow and release what is not ours.
Apologise, reflect, make amends.
Grace is what gives us freedom of anxiety and fear.
This is all about forgiveness of yourself because if you can't release your own stuff, you can't accept others stuff. That simple!
Yet it isn't always easy to forgive, so how do we do it?
Write down 10 things you feel guilty about from your life.
On a separate piece of paper write down how you feel when you experience guilt.
What do you feel in your body, in your mind? Then write on another piece of paper what you feel when you experience forgiveness.
Try and be in the feeling of grace. This is self-awareness and self-love I have set 10 affirmations below for you to choose from.
Unfortunately, affirmations DON'T work if they aren't from the heart.
So these have to be said with true intentions.
I recommend people visualise themselves standing in front of themselves often as a younger child.
Why, because we have more compassion for that innocent bundle.
See that child surrounded by love and light and notice hers or his facial reactions.
This brings affirmation to life. beaming it with truth
1. I lay down the weight of doubt, shame, guilt, and embarrassment.
2. I am worthy of all the compassion and kindness life offers me.
3. I am capable of moving beyond my mistakes.
4. I gently release the grip of anger and rage from my body.
5. I trade my anger and rage for understanding and compassion.
6. I have the courage to heal and become whole again.
7. I will treat myself with respect and kindness from today forward.
8. I go with the flow that life brings me.
9. I grow more patient and understanding of others by forgiving myself.
10. I let go of all self-judgment and self-sabotage.
11. I grow stronger and better as I forgive myself to move on.